It is worth noticing that despite whatever abuse you have experienced and whatever problems this may have brought into your life, you are still here.
Not only are you still here, but you are doing things to build the life you want, not a life that is determined by your experiences of abuse.
Take time to acknowledge what you have achieved. What do you feel good about? What are you proud of?
It could be a relationship, parenting, success in work, or sports achievements. It could be something you have done to help someone else.
It could be standing up against injustices, no matter how small or large.
It could be anything that reflects the life you want to build for yourself, based on your own values, beliefs and preferences.